we need to re-evaluate our relationship to fear. yes, fear can be useful. we should listen to our fear, simply to hear what it has to say, perhaps shedding some light on an area that needs our attention. but, our tendency – our pattern, seems to be one of reaction when fear arises rather than thoughtful action.below, there is a story about fear. 

 Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave instructions for the battle.

 The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?”

 Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.”

 Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?”

 Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”


In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear.

Pema Chödrön
#fear #power #warrior #spiritualwarriorship #respect #wisdom #meditation #practice #mindfulness #awareness #thoughtfulaction #PemaChödrön

happy 80th birthday Pema Chödrön…

happy 80th birthday to beloved Pema Chödrön!!!celebrated by Buddhist and non-Buddhist alike, her humor, her life experience, and her grounded-practical wisdom has benefitted many including me.  

bows of gratitude for her life, her practice, and her teaching. may she continue to benefit the world!
some of my favorite books of hers:

When Things Fall Apart

Comfortable With Uncertainty

Practicing Peace in Times of War

Start Where You Are

The Places That Scare You
#PemaChödrön #PemaChödrön80thBirthday

#wisdom #teacher #practice #meditation #Shambhala #Buddhism 

letting go of joy…

…a note I wrote after listening to a talk by Pema Chodron.  life is full of ups and downs, good times and hard times. both of these are fleeting, arising and passing away as is all life.  non-suffering comes from our capacity to fully live each moment and then let go of that moment. 

it’s so easy to let go of the hard times – no need to talk us into that!  but even our good times can be filled with suffering if we are afraid to lose them.  wouldn’t it be better – more enjoyable, knowing that we will lose them, to just really – fully enjoy them while they are present?  then when it is time to say goodbye, we let go in gratitude for the joy we had in that moment.  


#impermanence #nonattachment #life #gratitude #suffering #PemaChodron 



how we speak and how we act begins in the heart and mind.  Thich Nhat Hanh speaks of watering the seeds of kindness and nonharming within our heart and mind. meditation is watering those seeds.

there is Native American story of feeding the wolves. we have within us the bad wolf filled with arrogance, envy, anger, greed, false pride, bitterness. and we also have the good wolf filled with empathy, kindness, compassion, generosity, joy, peace, and love. they are battling. which one will win? the one you feed.

meditation is feeding the good wolf.


Brave Uncertainty…

Brave Uncertainty
“Anxiety, heartbreak, and tenderness mark the in-between state. It’s the kind of place we usually want to avoid. . . . When we are brave enough to stay in the middle, compassion arises spontaneously.”

~ Pema Chödrön